Confident Queen.

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Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled. The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop.Poor self-worth is what traps many beautiful women in bad relationships,it sabotages new relationships, and it also causes most women to feel so devastated and broken when a relationship ends.
Everyone’s path will be different but having a picture of what good self-esteem is and how it can play out in relationships, is helpful and can help reveal the areas you may need to work on.Having good self-esteem doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship, but it does equip you with the skills to identify what you deserve  and the strength to walk away if something falls short.
Things Confident Ladies Do Differently during Courtship and Relationships –
1.She does not  analyze if a guy likes her– she assumes he does:-
People with high self-esteem believe they are worthy of love and don’t question how someone feels about them. They know that they are good, competent, and lovable and trust that the right person for them will see this. They don’t attach their worth to what a guy thinks and, as a result, don’t feel stressed and anxious when a guy’s feelings are unclear. Instead, they assume he likes them and are able to be present in the relationship and enjoy it without being weighed down by fears and doubts.
2.She realizes if a relationship falls apart it’s because it wasn’t right,
Not everyone is a match and sometimes, two people are just incompatible. This doesn’t make either of them flawed or bad – sometimes it’s just not there.They realize that it must not be the right match and they move on, with their sense of self firmly intact.When a lady is insecure, however, and a guy leaves, she spirals. She may obsess,analyze, and replay every interaction in an attempt to uncover what she did wrong,She may know on a conscious level that it simply wasn’t the will of God, but deep down she holds on to the destructive belief that she was the problem
3.She sets healthy boundaries:-
Healthy personal boundaries and high self-esteem go hand in hand. Having strong boundaries means you prioritize your needs and your emotions and do not assume responsibility for someone else’s needs and emotions.Confident women know what they will and will not accept and don’t allow themselves to be pressured or guilted into doing things they don’t want to do. They act in accordance with who they are and what they believe and don’t cater their behavior for a guy, or do things solely to keep him interested and happy. When you have weak boundaries, you may sell yourself out in a relationship and put up with treatment that you know is objectively unacceptable.
Confident women don’t abandon parts of themselves in order to have a relationship. They bring their fully formed self into the relationship and if the guy wants something else, or something more, they leave.A woman with healthy boundaries will not lose herself in a relationship, and will not allow her identity to be entirely contingent upon how a guy sees her. She will continue to maintain her own life outside of the relationship without giving up her friends,hobbies, or alone time. She won’t abandon important parts of herself or her life for the sake of the relationship and if a guy wants something else or something more than she’s willing to give, she’ll leave.
4.She trusts herself and the decisions she makes:-
A key component of having high self-esteem is trusting yourself to make the right choices while also realizing you are well equipped to cope should things go awry.Ladies with high self-esteem don’t constantly question their actions and feel conflicted about the right thing to say or do. They act on how they feel and are comfortable being their true, authentic selves. Ladies with low self-esteem don’t trust their judgment, don’t trust their gut instincts,and are afraid of being wrong. As a result, they either live their lives in a constant state of anxiety, or they look to others to guide them along the right path. This obviously does not do much to help one’s sense of autonomy, which is also a key element of healthy self-esteem.
5. She does not show off or talk herself up:-
Confident people don’t need to tell the world how great they are. Only insecure people secretly feel that they are unworthy and feel the need to hide this by bragging about their achievements or talking themselves up.A lady who reveals herself gradually, carefully peeling back the layers over time,is significantly more attractive than a lady who lays it all out there. When you feel that you are worthy, you don’t need to tell people…they just know. A big mistake insecure women make in the early stages of dating is selling themselves to a guy. This can be completely innocent, but it comes from a deeper sense of insecurity and inadequacy.,
6.She accepts responsibility:-
Confident people accept responsibility for their actions and emotions. They don’t blame or shame their partners if they feel unhappy and don’t accuse him of “making”them feel a certain way. They don’t blame men for being jerks and they don’t view themselves as the victims of other people and circumstances.They realize that their time is their responsibility. As a result, they don’t wait around in dead-end relationships, hoping something will magically change. And they don’t blame their exes for wasting their time. They take responsibility for their choices,both good and bad, and use mistakes as opportunities to grow and become even better.
7.She takes the relationship for what it is and does not need it to be a certain way:-
Confident ladies feel secure in their relationships. They don’t need to have a title or a ring as some sort of confirmation that the guy cares. They are able to just be present in the relationship and let it unfold , without force or pressure.This is not to say,they stay with a guy who won’t commit and are all cool and go-with-the-flow about it. If a guy can’t commit in the way they want, then they’ll move on. They are able to give and receive freely in their relationships and as a result,they don’t stress out about labels. They just know that if it’s God’s will , it will work out.And if it’s not His will, they’ll move on.
8.She never stays in bad relationships. –
Confident ladies do not stay in relationships where they don’t feel respected,appreciated, and valued. They aren’t afraid to walk away when something isn’t working and the thought that they won’t be able to find better or that they will wind up alone doesn’t cross their mind. They can quickly see when a situation is damaging and will remove themselves immediately.Only insecure people put up with treatment that is unacceptable, in large part because they feel that’s what they deserve on some level. When you learn to value yourself, you will weed out anyone who doesn’t truly value you.
9.She does not desperately seek reassurance:-
Ladies with high self-esteem know they are loved and lovable. They don’t need a guy to remind them every day  it’s just something they feel and know. When you are insecure, you need constant validation and become resentful. if your guy doesn’t give it to you. You blame him for “making you” feel insecure in the relationship, or unloved. You may work harder to try to please him and earn his love, or you may withhold your love and affection to even the score. This manifests as neediness which is the number one relationship killer.

Conclusion:-

To all Beautiful Queens reading this blog, God is more than willing to help you restructure your self-esteem but you must be willing to work with Him hand in hand to become a confident woman who knows her true worth in Jesus Christ .

You Are Special in God’s Eyes……………………….

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