In one of my studies, i came across a very informative article by Bishop TD.Jakes about relationships. I thought of sharing it with my readers because it’s vain to acquire knowledge and fail to share it with others right!!I hope you will learn something constructive that will help you in maintaining healthy relationships.
You’ve heard it said, “Everything happens for a reason.” This simple concept not only applies to love and career, but it also speaks to our everyday relationships. Each person that has come into our life, whether for a period of days or years, arrived along our path to serve a purpose.
Many times, we don’t fully grasp when circumstances change and an individual no longer adds value to our lives. Most people have difficulty figuring out what to do once they realize this. While it may seem somewhat harsh or insensitive to break ties, it is perfectly fine, and in fact, very healthy to cut people off.
Here are a few simple signs that it’s time to let someone go.
When You Are No Longer Happy To See Or Be Around Them
If their presence becomes unsettling to your spirit, don’t ignore the signs. Your instincts only pick up on the truth and seek to guide you accordingly. There comes a time when things –– and people –– no longer bring you joy or happiness. It is a sign that there is a need for change, and you have to take the initiative to switch things up.
When They Offer Nothing But Negativity
Attitude is everything. More so, we each have the power to speak things into existence. For those with a positive outlook, the fruits of our thoughts and actions reap positive rewards. Yet, for those who constantly complain or carry an attitude of ungratefulness, the atmosphere becomes filled with gloom and negativity. Individuals who always want to criticize other people show a sure sign of wasting valuable time and energy on the wrong things and, ultimately, are not deserving of yours.
When They Want (Or Take) More Than They Give
Relationships are an exchange. It takes two people mutually invested in making each other better, holding each other accountable and being of help when in need. Those who are always first at the table and walk away with the most before ever leaving anything for others must be forced to take their appetite elsewhere. Relationships should never be more of a burden than a blessing. When you start to feel used or taken advantage of, mentally or spiritually, cut it off quickly.
When You Can No Longer Trust Them
Everyone knows that trust is one of most essential factors in any form of relationship. Once it is compromised, things might never be the same. Trust can take years to build and a only a few moments to break. Those who claim a space in your circle must be people you find trustworthy, reliable and genuinely concerned about what is best for you. When the bond is broken or betrayal irreparably sets in, find the exit.
When They Are No Longer Supportive
You should always surround yourself with people who support you and your dreams. Though support comes in many forms, the common thread is authenticity and honesty. Those with a true desire to watch you win in life don’t care to offer endless pats on the back or overlook your weaknesses –– they actively push you to be the best version of yourself. Stay clear of those who bring you down rather than lift you up.
All things, including people and feelings, change. When they do change, it is only fair for all parties involved to move on. Every decision you make has a direct impact on your future. As a result, you should never feel guilty for making choices that are in your best interests. You must remember: It’s your life.