Trusting God for a spouse as a single lady is pretty much interesting, you don’t go looking out for a spouse that’s purely the work of the man, who will take the lead in your life. People will suggest all they want that a lady can chase a man but from the report, I have from my brothers!!! That’s a total turn off. You might catch His attention for a season but it will not last long. God created men as hunters, no wonder eve was the last one to be created by God. God noticed Adam, was lonely and He lacked a companion who would help Him in looking after the garden and give him great company.
From my point of view which I support it from God’s word in Genesis 2:21-24 (NKJV)And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.And Adam said:“This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh;She shall be called Woman,Because she was taken out of Man.”Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. i simply don’t advocate single beautiful ladies, throwing their standards outside the window to chase men. You are simply running someone’s else race which is not your race.
God has amazing plans for every single lady, who is not after chasing a man to complete her in marriage. In the book of Ruth, we have an incredible lady, who defied the odds and followed her mother-in-law to a foreign land. She was widowed, she was a foreigner and she never had children of her own and her name is Ruth. Despite her terrible past, she chose to remove her mourning garments and work, to cater for her mother-in-law needs as well as her needs. In our modern-day and age, this might represents itself as a scenario, where you have gone through heartbreaks in relationships that were not supposed to end up in fruitfulness. You might have been wounded, physically or emotionally abused; or you have children out of wedlock, which may act as reminders of your past but as Ruth chose to embrace the new, you have the opportunity to embrace the new, for your future husband to locate you.
God positioned Ruth at the right place when she went out to look for a field to glean. While she was busy working and minding her own business, God ordered the steps of her future husband who took notice of her. This reflects how any woman, who has experienced messy stuff in her past must move on. Not just moving on in life by words but intentionally working to better yourself as a woman by forgiving those who have hurt you and becoming the best version of you because you are valuable.
You can’t negatively brand all men and expect an Angel in return! You have to trust God in positioning you at the right place, doing the right thing and God will order the steps of your future husband to where you are. Your attitude has to change, your words have to align with what you desire to see and your motives have to be genuine when allowing that man into your space.
So what do we learn from Ruth:-
1.She was busy gleaning in the fields, when Her Boaz took notice of her. Your future husband will take notice of you when you are busy doing something to better yourself as a woman. Ruth 2:5-6 Then Boaz said to his servant who was in charge of the reapers, “Whose young woman is this?” So the servant who was in charge of the reapers answered and said, “It is the young Moabite woman who came back with Naomi from the country of Moab
2.She was a woman who had a caring heart, which was evident to those around her.She valued and respected people close to her and even strangers. The fact that she was living with her mother in law, she respected her and from the fields where she gleaned as foreigner , she also got along well with the workers in those fields. As you desire to have a home of your own, where you will have new people from in-laws to friends ,you have to learn to get along with people.Boaz took notice of it Ruth 2:12 The Lord repay your work, and a full reward be given you by the Lord God of Israel, under whose wings you have come for refuge.”
3.She was a woman of noble character which only means, as daughters of the Most High King we should learn and embrace a noble character even when nobody is watching. Ruth 3:11 And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman.
4.She was obedient and loyal to her Mother-in-law’s instructions which ushered her to marriage Ruth 3:1-5 Then Naomi her mother-in-law said to her, “My daughter, shall I not seek security for you, that it may be well with you? Now Boaz, whose young women you were with, is he not our relative? In fact, he is winnowing barley tonight at the threshing floor. Therefore wash yourself and anoint yourself, put on your best garment and go down to the threshing floor; but do not make yourself known to the man until he has finished eating and drinking. Then it shall be, when he lies down, that you shall notice the place where he lies; and you shall go in, uncover his feet, and lie down; and he will tell you what you should do.”And she said to her, “All that you say to me I will do.” We all need wise people around us who can give us wise counsel and we should be willing to obey for our own good. God uses people to usher us into our next dimensions.
What Do we Learn from Boaz:-
1.He was a caring man ,He noticed Ruth’s need and offered to help her Ruth 2:15-16 And when she rose up to glean, Boaz commanded his young men, saying, “Let her glean even among the sheaves, and do not reproach her. Also let grain from the bundles fall purposely for her; leave it that she may glean, and do not rebuke her.”Your future husband whom God is preparing will bring out the best in you. When you are dating ,he will not shy away to speak positive about you, he will show genuine care with no strings attached and he will strive to bring out the best in you during courtship and even in marriage.
2.He respected Ruth as a woman and did not want his men to mistreat her in any way Ruth 2:15 And when she rose up to glean, Boaz commanded his young men, saying, “Let her glean even among the sheaves, and do not reproach her. Your future husband who God will order his steps to you, He will protect you as a woman while you are dating and in marriage.
3.He was a responsible man ,he was doing something before he decided to settle down in marriage.Trust God for a man with vision and who is doing something towards that vision .
4.He was Observant Ruth 2:5 .Then Boaz said to his servant who was in charge of the reapers, “Whose young woman is this?”.Your future husband will find you attractive just the way you are and he will definitely discover your inner beauty. He will not compare you with other women.
6.He valued Ruth as a woman, He never took advantage of her when she went to lie at his feet at the threshing floor. Ruth 3:9-15 And he said, “Who are you?”So she answered, “I am Ruth, your maidservant. Take your maidservant under your wing,for you are a close relative.”Then he said, “Blessed are you of the Lord, my daughter! For you have shown more kindness at the end than at the beginning, in that you did not go after young men, whether poor or rich. And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you request, for all the people of my town know that you are a virtuous woman. Now it is true that I am a close relative; however, there is a relative closer than I. Stay this night, and in the morning it shall be that if he will perform the duty of a close relative for you—good; let him do it. But if he does not want to perform the duty for you, then I will perform the duty for you, as the Lord lives! Lie down until morning.”So she lay at his feet until morning, and she arose before one could recognize another. Then he said, “Do not let it be known that the woman came to the threshing floor.” Also he said, “Bring the shawl that is on you and hold it.” And when she held it, he measured six ephahs of barley, and laid it on her. Then she went into the city. Your future husband will Guard your heart by making known his intentions to pursue you when the time is right. You will know where he stands,he won’t lead you on by just “hanging out” with you for an extended period of time, enjoying the benefits of your company without accepting appropriate responsibility towards you.
7.He was a man of integrity, he knew that there was a closer relative who had the first privilege to redeem Ruth . He took the proper steps to win her hand in marriage Ruth 4:1-6 Now Boaz went up to the gate and sat down there; and behold, the close relative of whom Boaz had spoken came by. So Boaz said, “Come aside, friend, sit down here.” So he came aside and sat down. And he took ten men of the elders of the city, and said, “Sit down here.” So they sat down. Then he said to the close relative, “Naomi, who has come back from the country of Moab, sold the piece of land which belonged to our brother Elimelech. And I thought to inform you, saying, ‘Buy it back in the presence of the inhabitants and the elders of my people. If you will redeem it, redeem it; but if you will not redeem it, then tell me, that I may know; for there is no one but you to redeem it, and I am next after you.’”And he said, “I will redeem it.”Then Boaz said, “On the day you buy the field from the hand of Naomi, you must also buy it from Ruth the Moabitess, the wife of the dead, to perpetuate the name of the dead through his inheritance.”And the close relative said, “I cannot redeem it for myself, lest I ruin my own inheritance. You redeem my right of redemption for yourself, for I cannot redeem it.”Your future husband has to portray integrity Does what is right, even when it’s hard and respects the authorities in his life. Heeds the wise counsel of a more seasoned Christian man, such as a pastor or mentor who will come alongside him, ask tough questions, hold him accountable, and encourage him towards a life of Christ-likeness.
8.He was a man who was led of God and he took all the due procedure to marry her. From this union we have the lineage of our savior Jesus Christ. Ruth 4:6-12And the close relative said, “I cannot redeem it for myself, lest I ruin my own inheritance. You redeem my right of redemption for yourself, for I cannot redeem it.”Now this was the custom in former times in Israel concerning redeeming and exchanging, to confirm anything: one man took off his sandal and gave it to the other, and this was a confirmation in Israel. Therefore the close relative said to Boaz, “Buy it for yourself.” So he took off his sandal. And Boaz said to the elders and all the people, “You are witnesses this day that I have bought all that was Elimelech’s, and all that was Chilion’s and Mahlon’s, from the hand of Naomi. Moreover, Ruth the Moabitess, the widow of Mahlon, I have acquired as my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead through his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brethren and from his position at the gate.You are witnesses this day.”And all the people who were at the gate, and the elders, said, “We are witnesses. The Lord make the woman who is coming to your house like Rachel and Leah, the two who built the house of Israel; and may you prosper in Ephrathah and be famous in Bethlehem. May your house be like the house of Perez, whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring which the Lord will give you from this young woman.Trust God for a spouse who is yielded to God.A man that is led of God will definitely led you well.
6.He was a man with reputable character :- Ruth 2:1 Now there was a wealthy and influential man in Bethlehem named Boaz, who was a relative of Naomi’s husband, Elimelech.Your future husband should have a good reputation because he’s proven himself to be a man of character and worth by his actions.
7.To crown it all Boaz believed in the lord Ruth 2:4 While she was there, Boaz arrived from Bethlehem and greeted the harvesters. “The Lord be with you!” he said.“The Lord bless you!” the harvesters replied. As a born again single woman ,your future husband should have a solid relationship with the Lord which is of great importance for a woman of worth like you.
To all my beautiful sisters trusting God for a spouse, who will walk you down the aisle in purity, God is more than willing to connect you with your spouse. Focus on making your self a better person, learn how to invest in yourself,how to be a home maker , how to manage yourself and the mother of them all put your focus on God and seek Him with everything within you. All this will attribute to your capability of being a helpmate to your future spouse.It’s my prayer to all single ladies trusting God for marriages that will honor Him, to let your ‘future husbands’ connect with you in the Spirit and locate you as you chase after the heart of God.