Do you know to be a real lady, is much of carrying yourself with dignity, which also empowers a man to be a gentleman. It does not matter where you come from; being a lady comes with a price tag on it. Many of us want a true gentleman, but I believe we hold the power to the way we are treated in our hands: If you want a gentleman, you must act like a lady.
Simple Manners that still apply to be a simple, elegant Damsel :-
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Don’t be rude or arrogant; your language is a representation of your mind and heart.
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Don’t talk with your mouth full. I don’t need to explain this one.
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She dresses tastefully: A lady dresses appropriately for the occasion.
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She knows Respect from others come from self-respect.
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A lady should not swear class is defined by elegance and dignity.
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When asked for a suggestion, she is not afraid to give her opinion, being assertive is an attractive feature indecisiveness is not.
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She is gracious: Her speech is graceful and not arrogant.
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She turns her phone on silent mode and puts it away while in meetings and church services.
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She does not put other people down to make herself feel better.
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She does not chew aimlessly while in a meeting, church or having conversation with people.
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She gives compliments with sincerity and only when she means it. She does not say things just to say them. Insincerity is easier to read than we think.
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A lady offers to help someone in need. Being a lady starts with how you treat yourself and others. She offers her seat to the elderly, disabled or a parent with small children.
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She never arrives empty handed. Bringing a small hostess gift shows your appreciation for the preparation your host has done.
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Her word is her bond. A lady warrants a respectable reputation purely by the consistency of her word.
The Dating Damsel:-
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During the first dates,the ‘season for collecting Data’, honey Don’t touch that dial to call your potential candidate ,let the guy call you. A lady knows that she deserves to be pursued and does not need to keep on calling a guy just because he showed some interest. If you are in the position that you have to initiate contact in order to communicate, then you should know that you are not dealing with a gentleman and can move on.
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Time frame: no one gets to call you on a whim to hang out. ‘Your time is precious and valuable’ and you are clearly booked days in advance. Someone who honors your time will plan ahead and ask to take you out with at least a 48 hour request.
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You don’t meet a guy anywhere, especially on the first date. It can be inconvenient, but is it your job to make dating you convenient? No. The last thing you want to be is convenient. However if you are meeting someone in person for the first time, meeting in a neutral location is a smart, safe move. Always honor your intuition.
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Curfew: Mama always said nothing good happens past 10 o’ clock and she’s pretty much right. So set the time you need to be home in advance and let your gentleman know about it ahead of time.
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Appreciation: Being a lady and acting lady-like does not mean that you are entitled or snobby. Practice having a heart of gratitude and always say thank you for specific actions or generosities.
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How to order: Have respect for your gentleman and do not behave with entitlement by ordering the most expensive thing on the menu.
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Be a good listener and conversationalist. Put your phone away and be present. A lady is not boring, rude or dismissive.
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Be prepared. If you are going out with a gentleman, he will cover your date. However, you should always be prepared to pay if the date does not go well or he forgets his wallet
With those simple rules I have shared above, get to understand that everything comes from within then manifests outside.Honey!It does not matter how expensive or fashionable you dress,drive or live,as long as your heart is not pure all that is vanity.Real authentic beauty is birthed from within then manifests outside not the other way round!!!. The word of God clearly states in
1 Peter 3:3-4 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
